Today’s blog is my 3rd in a 3 part series on my thoughts as an organizational expert on the book, the life-changing magic of tidying up: the Japanese art of de cluttering by Marie Kondo. This book has sold 2 million copies and is a New York Times’ best seller. As a home organizer and author, I was challenged by a client who had read the book and asked me to read it and help her to implement some of the tips and strategies.
The why of her approach and core message of what brings you joy
The technical how to and thoughts on storage and my thoughts as it relates to the tips I share. I will share systems and strategies that work well in some cultures along with lifestyles and time management
Tidying points that were on key with how I believe and how it relates to my 2nd book, Uncluttered: Discovering Strength and Purpose in the Chaos of Life.
Here we go with part 3:
- When a room becomes cluttered, the cause is more than just physical. Visible mess helps distract us from the true source of the disorder….that draws our attention from the heart of an issue. P.21
I agree. In the prologue of my 2nd book Uncluttered, I have learned to see that situations in their lives, either past or current, are the reasons for the stress and ultimately the disorganization in their lives. I am writing this book to give you hope that your mess, your clutter, your disorganization is not too big to overcome, and neither is the story that goes with it. Our stories, our struggles, and our messes; those are our common ground.
- Our reason raises all kind of arguments for not discarding it, such as ‘I might need that’ or ‘It’s a waste to get rid of it.’ These thoughts spin round and round in our mind, making it impossible to let go…The inability to decide demonstrates a certain degree of attachment…P.59
I agree. In the prologue of Uncluttered, I know it is huge for them to admit they need help and allow me into their worlds. So, patiently and sometimes painfully, I listen as they explain why the messes in their homes and businesses have occurred. And as they talk about their clutter and chaos, when they feel like they can trust me, they open up and share their personal stories.
- By handling each sentimental item and deciding what to discard, you process your past. P.116
I do not fully agree. I have found that at times letting a person touch each item can actually cause them to become more attached. I like to hold the item and ask questions in this way; by them answering they find the answer themselves. In chapter 28 of Uncluttered, I understand there is a process they must go through before they can let go. They must come to terms with their clutter, get over the fear of “what if I need that,” realize they need help, and trust that I have their best interest at heart. Clutter can become a security that allows us to hide and not see what the real issue is. Likewise, acknowledging the past and forgiving others are the first steps in making peace with your past.
- Put your house in order and discover what you really love. P.174. Gaining confidence in life through tidying,…strength to make decisions. P.179. Hiding behind stuff…keeping, organizing, purging. P.180. Attachment to the past, anxiety about future, P.181, 183, 184. Question of what you own is how you want to live. P.182.
I partially agree. In chapter 28 of Uncluttered, Once we empty out the mess from our lives, we can’t keep it empty. We must fill it with the right things. I get to decide what I will keep and what I will discard. Some of the painful memories, I will still keep to share and help others. And I will keep the precious memories of family and friendships that I cherish. I have found great strength in knowing I am in control of what I choose to hold onto and what I choose to let go.
Are you ready to take your first step in becoming Uncluttered so that you can find your strength and purpose in the chaos of life? Contact me
Lisa Giesler, Professional Organizer, Author, Speaker
A Time and Place for Everything, LLC since 2008