I can’t do it all ~~
Have you ever heard yourself say, “I can’t do it all”? As a professional home organizer, I hear this often and not just from women, but men as well. The problem is that people say this as though it is a bad thing. It’s not a bad thing, it’s an honest thing. We only have so many hours in a day and so many days in a week. So how do we get past these stressful feelings?
The first thing we need to do is ask ourselves, “What do I want to do”. My me time is coffee with a friend. You probably don’t feel like doing the laundry or dishes. Many times, it is the everyday mundane tasks of life that takes up time. Add into the mix: children and events that you are guilted into attending. That usually leaves no room for fun or “me time”. Oh, and you may feel your house is a mess.
As a stay at home mom, I was amazed at other moms who appeared to be doing it all. I asked both, “How do you do it all?” They answered, “We can’t do it all”. One said, “I like to cook, so I hire a housekeeper” and the friend said, “I like to clean my own house, so we do take out on our way to the ball park”. I was surprised and relieved to know that it was ok to say, “I can’t do it all”.
Just like my mom friends, the next question is deciding what you do want to accomplish. Everyone’s list will look a little different. The best way to do this is to sit down with the family and establish everyone’s priority.
Here are some guidelines:
- Everyone picks a day or activity that they want to do
- Establish morning and afternoon routines to include: getting dressed, laundry, dishes, putting things away, and cleaning one space each day. This will help to keep your home looking uncluttered and clean.
- Set a calendar for special appointments, errands, and home projects.
- Sometimes with children in the house, “me time or date night” can seem impossible. What I found is when my husband is watching TV, he can fold the clothes, and I can have me time. Taking turns babysitting with another family is a great way to have “date night”.
- When an unexpected life event happens, such as a death of a loved one or sickness this can derail your plans. It instead of feeling stressed that you can’t do it all; relax, reset, enjoy the small accomplishments, and get back on track.
The goal is for a happy and peaceful life.
Lisa Giesler, Professional Organizer, Speaker, Author of Uncluttered :discovering strength and purpose in the chaos of life and My Life is Mess : Organizing 101.