What is your dream? Some people want a dream home, picturesque, the perfect yard, the perfect door, ample and organized closets and pantries, think how life will be? I have worked in these perfect homes and it really never gets old. I am still amazed at how gorgeous these homes are! Many people dream about moving into a home like this. It seems to symbolize status and the feeling that they have finally made it to where you want to be. People see these massive homes and imagine how happy they would be in a home like that one. I understand the desire to live in one of these homes but I couldn't say that it was ever my dream. My deep desire was for travel. I wanted to see new parts of the world and truly believed it could make me happy.
Dream home is not what I cared for; but a dream vacation in Europe. It felt like the epitome of luxury and the solutions to all of life’s problems. A couple years ago, my husband and I finally went on our vacation to Europe, a Mediterranean cruise! While on the cruise ship in the Eastern Mediterranean, many of the afternoons, I found myself relaxing by the pool and people watching. Observing all the sunbathing bodies made me think about the vanities that people struggle with. We think if we have the perfect body, perfect house, or the perfect trip, then we will be happy, unfortunately it is not true. Although I felt amazing while I was away, I still had to come home to the same struggles I had been facing within myself.
When I returned from Europe, Rebecca and I had lunch together to catch up on my trip and work stuff. While we were talking I am not sure how the conversation switched to the abuse I had endured as a child. I was not prepared for the next statement that came from Rebecca's mouth. "Do you think you are angry with your mom for not protecting you?" she asked. I jumped from my chair and said, "I'm done, I can't talk about this!" and walked out the restaurant. I felt like I had been punched in the stomach and the wind had been knocked out of me. I couldn't think.
During the process of getting uncluttered and organized, I so often hear client’s say, “Wow, I forgot that was even in there!” So many times in the process of purging and getting our lives together, we discover something that we had forgotten was there. This was one of those moments with Rebecca. Yet again I had the past spilling out of my mental closet. I had more work to do in the uncluttering of my heart. I was going through a long process that was leading me to healing, and although I wanted to run from it or pretend it wasn't there, I still had to keep pushing through it.
Like I said, I have worked in the beautiful homes and have taken the perfect trips, whereas all these are good things, it does not give us true peace. I went on the trip I had always dreamed of and it didn't clear the mess inside me. Just like buying the bigger home, the nicer cars, or the latest technology won't bring you the peace and happiness you desire. Peace comes from within us and sometimes we have to release the clutter that is on the inside first and then we can begin to discover your strength & purpose in the chaos of life.
Excerpts based on my book Uncluttered: Discovering Strength & Purpose in the Chaos of Life.
LisaGiesler, Professional Organizer, Author, Speaker