A friend encouraged me with my advice. Have you ever lost someone that you loved so much? One day on anniversary of my best friend’s death. I decided it was time to make peace and put her memory to rest.
A close friend invited me to coffee this morning and I told her “I don’t want to go. I want to stay in bed.” At this point I was crying. Funny how a true friend can read you miles away. She knows I like to stare out of the window when I am upset. This was her reply text to me:
“Ok. Here’s my thought…
This is one of those memories although inanimate, clutter on your shelf of life. Good clutter, but still clutter. Instead of getting rid of this one, let’s dust it off, give it a kiss, say “thank you for bringing me joy”, and pack it away.
I know you really cared for her, but you wallow in the memory twice a year. You let it bring you down. You should remember her for a moment that was fun or a place you went and not unpack the baggage each and every time twice a year.
This is one of those things you can’t now and never will change. This is one of those “live in the present” and move forward.
Look at Seth and see Seth not as Debra’s son. Love him for who he is and not what he was.
Just a thought. You may return to your window seat.”
I am thankful for my friend, Lisa Anhaiser, who encouraged me with my advice. If you new a little advice, I’d love to assist you. Contact me. 832-277-1745
Lisa Giesler, Professional Home Organizer, Author, Speaker, and Human