It’s OK to have a different Thanksgiving Day. I had to make peace with that last year, it wasn’t easy but I’m truly grateful. Growing up in a big Italian family in New Orleans, mom and dad would bring us to a family members home that was hosting the meal. All the aunts and cousins would cook or bring food. A very massive spread of food.
Conversations were lively and filled with laughter and the occasional arguing. Well, maybe a little extra arguing, but it was fun and time to connect with the extended family. That was Thanksgiving to me. In school there was the picture perfect first meal between the Pilgrims and the Indians. I don’t want to debate the subject but focus on that they felt thankful. Here is a link if you want to read about it.
Before my mom died and in the following years, I was the one who hosted the Thanksgiving dinners. One year, I had a friend from New Jersey that I invited over for dinner. Due to her husband ‘s work schedule they were unable to travel home. Imagine my shock and dismay when an older relative said, “Why do you have a stranger here?” Fast forward to me, my husband, and sons moving to Houston. Our first Thanksgiving we were alone. I was sad that none of our new friends had invited us over, knowing we were new to the city.
Last year was a different Thanksgiving Day
Last year, both my sons had plans with their wives. I baked a small chicken instead of a big old turkey with a couple side dishes and set the table. It was just me and my husband celebrating the things we were thankful for.
Here’s a challenge for you, if you find that you’re going to be alone and don’t want to be on Thanksgiving you can:
- Invite someone over
- Go to the shelter and serve others
- Visit a senior in a retirement home
No matter where you live or what is going that seems terrible, you have a choice to make and it’s asking yourself the question, “What am I thankful for?” Wishing you the best Thanksgiving Day. Be sure to take photos! Tag me on your favorite social media. I am Lisa Giesler on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn.
Lisa Giesler, Professional Organizer, Speaker, Consultant, Author of Uncluttered: discovering strength and purpose in the chaos of life.