Happily ever after
We all want a happily ever after. Yearning for a perfect, beautiful and organized closet is kind of like chasing after that same image of the perfect marriage. We have this idea in our minds of what the perfect marriage would be like. Of course we get along great with our significant other and everything is wonderful all the time. We think that a better spouse or better version of our spouse will make us happy; but our marriages won’t ever become happy until we clean out the clutter in our physical space, hearts and minds.
When I got married the thing that mattered most to me at the time was that I was married and finally out on my own. in hindsight, I was incredibly unprepared for the reality of marriage though. I thought when I was married I’d finally have my own space, then I realized I now had to share it with my husband. Joe and I came from two different worlds growing up, he was my total opposite. They say opposites attract, but opposites also attack. We had many disagreements and voiced them often, but the things that took the hardest toll on our marriage were the unresolved matters that kept resurfacing. I wondered what happened to my happily ever after?
Over the course of a marriage, you can accumulate a lot of hurt feelings over even the littlest of things. Over time, these hurt feelings turn into resentment and manifest in your marriage through short tempers, and lack of patience for one another. Leading your relationship into a cluttered mess of hurt and resentment.
If you want a great marriage, you have to start with the messes in your own life first. Then you can work on your relationship with your spouse. It wasn’t until I started to work on myself and bring up the past hurts and feelings with my husband that I started to feel healed. In turn, he brought up things he was holding back too and together we began to get uncluttered in our marriage.
**My story turned out well, but if you are living in a physically or verbally abusive relationship, you need to get help from a professional.
Excerpts of this blog come from my 2nd book Uncluttered: discovering strength and purpose in the chaos of life
Lisa Giesler – Organizer, author, speaker